Tricky Sol

A throwaway line from Fleabag's therapist turned into an existential crisis. Turns out, the science of why we're attracted to religious figures reveals something profound about sacred longing, forbidden desire, and what we're all actually searching for.

'You know that's spiritual, right?' I told my roommates as we watched women dancing at a Caribbean carnival. They laughed, but I was serious. The twerking they saw as purely sexual connects to West African sacred practices—embodied wisdom about healing trauma and honoring the divine that the Western world has deliberately forgotten.

While renewing my passport, I confronted an uncomfortable truth: this little booklet represents both extraordinary privilege and a deeply unjust system. I need it to move through the world, yet every border it crosses reminds me that these lines weren't drawn by mutual agreement—they were imposed through colonial violence and maintained through power.